Autism in Adulthood
Many people discover they are autistic later in life. It can feel grounding to finally have language for your experience, but it can also bring a mix of relief, uncertainty and a re‑examination of the past. So many adults who discover they are neurodivergent have carried years of being misunderstood—through bullying, loneliness, masking, or simply never quite feeling “in step” with others. A diagnosis doesn’t erase those experiences, but it can open the door to understanding them with far more compassion.
When we meet, we take our time. The first step is creating a space that genuinely works for you—checking in about eye contact, where you prefer to sit, whether movement helps you regulate, and what helps you feel safe enough to think and speak freely. Nothing is assumed. Your way of being is the starting point.
Life as an autistic adult often involves navigating reactions and interactions that don’t always make sense. Therapy is a place where we can slow all of that down. Together, we can look closely at those micro‑moments—how you feel around others, how you express yourself, what you pick up on, and what gets missed. For many people, this is the first time they’ve been supported to explore their inner world in relation to others without pressure, judgement or performance.
Autistic burnout and shutdown are common but often missed experiences. They can arise after long periods of masking, managing sensory overwhelm, or stretching yourself to meet expectations that don’t fit your nervous system. Burnout might feel like emotional and physical exhaustion, losing access to skills you usually rely on, or a sudden collapse in capacity. Shutdowns can look like withdrawing, going quiet, losing words, or needing to retreat from interaction completely. These responses are not failures—they’re signs that your system needs rest, protection and space. Understanding these patterns helps us work together in ways that respect your limits and support gradual recovery.
This work isn’t always easy; it sometimes brings old pain to the surface. But over time, the process can bring clarity, ease and a sense of self that feels more spacious and less effortful. Alongside this, we explore how your early experiences, attachment patterns and feelings of difference have shaped your life so far, and what your diagnosis means for the person you are becoming. Our focus is on helping you move forward in a way that feels authentic, sustainable and connected.
Burnout and Building Resilience
Attachment patterns form the emotional foundation of our adult lives. They shape how safe we feel with others, how much of ourselves we allow to be seen, and how we manage conflict, disappointment, loss or closeness. For many people—especially those who have spent years masking differences or working hard to “fit”—these early patterns can quietly evolve into coping strategies such as pleasing, performing, overworking, anticipating others’ needs or carrying too much responsibility.
These strategies may once have protected you, but over time they can become exhausting. When they collide with the demands of adult life—relationships, work, sensory load, caring for others—the result can be profound burnout. Autistic burnout, in particular, is easily missed by the outside world. It may show up as emotional depletion, heightened sensitivity, a reduced capacity to function, or a loss of skills you could previously rely on. Understanding the attachment roots of these patterns allows us to see burnout not as weakness, but as a natural response to years of pushing beyond what your nervous system can sustain.
In therapy, we explore how stress moves through your body, what your early environment taught you about coping, and how your attachment strategies have shaped the way you handle pressure. The therapeutic relationship itself becomes a safe place to notice old patterns without judgment and to experiment with more spacious, less demanding ways of relating.
From there, the work turns toward resilience—not as the ability to tolerate more, but as the capacity to live in a way that honours your needs rather than overriding them. This includes recognising early signs of overwhelm, pacing yourself, setting boundaries that protect your energy, and cultivating relationships that feel supportive rather than draining. Together, we build a way of living that is more sustainable, more grounded and more in tune with who you are.
Across this work, my role is to provide a steady, well‑trained presence—someone who understands the nuances of attachment, the lived realities of burnout, and the emotional toll of years spent coping alone. The fee reflects the depth, specialism and level of attunement required for this kind of work, and the commitment to offering a therapeutic space where meaningful, lasting change can take root.
Trauma
Trauma can affect us in ways that are difficult to put into words. It shapes how safe we feel in the world, how much we trust ourselves and others, and how our body responds to stress and uncertainty. Sometimes trauma stems from a single overwhelming event. But for many people, trauma is more complex, arising from repeated experiences over time, often within close relationships.
This kind of relational or developmental trauma can be harder to name, because it may not look like what we expect "trauma" to be. It might involve growing up with a parent who was emotionally unavailable, unpredictable or frightening. It might mean living with a parent who used alcohol or substances, where the home environment felt chaotic, confusing or unsafe. It could also include experiences of neglect, control, criticism or boundary violations in formative relationships. These experiences leave a deep imprint on our nervous system, our attachment patterns and our sense of who we are.
For people who have been diagnosed with autism or ADHD in adulthood, the picture can be even more complex. Many have spent years trying to fit into environments that did not understand or accommodate them. This can be traumatic in itself, leaving lasting effects on self worth, identity and the capacity to trust others. Trauma and neurodivergence often overlap in ways that are not always recognised, and therapy can help untangle these threads with care and understanding.
In our work together, we move gently and at a pace that feels manageable for you. I draw on my extensive experience with trauma and a biopsychosocial understanding of its effects, paying attention to your history, your body, your relationships and your attachment patterns. Together we explore what happened, how it shaped you, and how those early experiences might still be influencing your feelings, your relationships and your sense of self today.
Healing from trauma is not about forgetting or "moving on." It is about understanding your responses with compassion, recognising the ways you learned to protect yourself, and gradually building more safety, trust and grounding in your life.
Get in touch
If you would like to arrange an initial consultation or find out more about supervision, you are very welcome to get in touch.
We can meet in person in Kentish Town or online. I usually respond within a few days.
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